Q. My in-laws moved out of state to be closer to my husband’s sister. We used to see one another quite often, so it’s been an adjustment. We’re planning our first visit to their new home this summer with our two kids, who are aged 11 and 14. Any tips for making it a smooth visit?

A. A move away from family is never easy – for anyone involved. But distance has a way of making the time you do spend together a little bit more meaningful, and this visit is an opportunity to spend time together in a whole new way. Your in-laws may be excited to show you around their new home, but they may also be nervous about hosting you for the first time. So, it’s worth putting a little thought into how to make the visit a good one for everyone.

Here are some things to consider:

Let them be your guide: Ask your in-laws about what sorts of activities they would like to do during the visit. They may have some ideas, or they may want you to take the lead on planning. Try to balance high-energy activities for your kids with slower-paced entertainment and downtime.

Plan for meals and diets: If you’re staying with your in-laws, consider mapping out a plan for meals, with some at home and some in restaurants. Let your in-laws know about any special foods or snacks you like to have on hand for the kids. Or better yet, plan a quick trip to the grocery store to pick up those items after you arrive.

Talk it through: Before you go, talk with your in-laws about how much activity feels manageable. It’s worth talking with your kids ahead of time, too. Their grandparents may keep different hours, and managing expectations on both sides makes for a smoother visit.

Be flexible: Check in often during the trip. If something’s not working out the way you planned, make adjustments to make sure everyone’s enjoying themselves.

Focus on enjoying time together: Take photos, share stories, play games, or do a group activity that bridges generations. The best memories are often made during small moments.

Family visits don’t have to be elaborate or complicated. With a little structure and plenty of flexibility, this vacation can be the source of special new memories. I hope this trip is the first of many wonderful visits and new traditions for your family.

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