Helping a parent through the grieving process
Q: My father passed away this past winter after a long illness. I miss him every day. My mother seems to be stuck in the grieving process and withdraws from other family members and friends. Is this normal? What can we do to help? A: The experience of grief differs from one person to the next. The…
Looking after parents from a distance
Q: I plan to make a trip back to the area after the holidays to visit my elderly parents. I realize traveling is not recommended now, but I feel a need to check on them. My mother hasn’t sounded like herself during our calls, and my father doesn’t always want to be on phone. When we…
A Caregiver’s Journey: Roland’s Story
For Roland G. of Andover, the respite care he receives enhances his life immeasurably. His wife Diane, diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease in 2015, recently lost the ability to walk. “I was ready to ask for help,” he recalls. He’d been experiencing bouts of anxiety, the result of a self-imposed “do it all” mentality that can…
Holiday activities can agitate those with dementia
Q: My widowed sister moved in with our mother a year ago. Mom has Alzheimer’s disease, and it became evident she could no longer safely live alone. Things were going very well until right after Thanksgiving. My sister started decorating for Christmas, and my mother became agitated and uncooperative. We have no idea what is causing…
Gratitude needed in challenging times
Q: My mother moved in with us a few years ago when my father passed away. My two adult children have returned home having both lost their jobs due to the pandemic. My daughter and son are not dealing well with all the changes in their lives, and my elderly mom is frustrated with their attitude…
Staying in contact with virtual visits
Q: My mother lives in an assisted living facility that currently has an outbreak of COVID-19. Previously, only outside visits were allowed, and now even those have been suspended due to the lockdown status. My mother knows people in the building are sick, but she still doesn’t seem to understand why I can’t visit her. She…
Tips for holiday shopping during the pandemic
Q: Due to my age and chronic health conditions, I have been extremely careful over the last nine months to avoid contracting COVID-19. I only go out when it is necessary, but with the holidays approaching, I don’t know how I’m going to get my gift shopping done. My children and grandchildren have agreed it would…
Weighing benefits, risks of COVID-19 vaccine
Question: My neighbors and I have been closely following news about the progress of a vaccine for COVID-19. We have differing viewpoints on whether we feel confident in getting vaccinated when it first becomes available. We are all in the “older adults” category, so we realize we are more at risk. How do we decide…
Finding Support and Community While Caregiving During COVID
Like so many others, Kate P. has watched as her mother’s health has deteriorated over the past couple of years. This summer, the situation worsened. Her mother, age 77, has been struggling with failing mental health, dementias, and falling. She has gotten lost and had accidents while driving. Kate lives in Rhode Island and works full-time while her mother lives alone in North Reading, Mass. Kate and her husband,…
Handling Thanksgiving safely during a pandemic
Q: Our family is in turmoil over making plans for Thanksgiving. Our adult children haven’t seen us in months, so they are anxious to get together. I have missed them, but I am not sure it would be wise for them to visit. My husband has several chronic conditions and is at a higher risk…
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